“Love with every stranger, the stranger the better.”

I really identify with this line from one of my favorite songs, "Someone New," by Hozier. I love talking to people I've just met. And I love talking about intimate topics. What makes others blush makes me curious. It’s my comfort zone, an endlessly interesting window into what makes people tick. Now, some people are indeed stranger than others; but, after talking to thousands of strangers over the years, it turns out that pretty much everyone worries that they are THE strangest people around.

Everyone thinks something about their body is strange.

Everyone thinks what they want is strange.

Everyone thinks asking for what they want is strange.

Before I trained in sex and intimacy therapy, I was a professor of anthropology. Anthropology, the comparative study of culture and society, prides itself in making the strange familiar and the familiar strange. Now that I have a clinic for sex and intimacy counseling, I welcome the stranger. EVERYONE that works with me receives empathic, non-judgmental listening and respect. I truly love the variation of experience people bring to the clinic and helping them figure out what works for them (and what doesn’t). Using mixed techniques, including talk therapy, family constellation, non-violent communication, focusing and meditation, expressive arts and writing, I take you on a journey to map out patterns of relating and intimacy, try to understand how they once served you, and then decide how you want to live from now on. I explain to my clients that in order to get what we really want and need, first we must become strangers to ourselves. We need to study ourselves as if we are a foreign tribe, with compassion and empathy, and a little distance, to understand what motivates our choices. Are you ready to explore your relationship patterns in a new, non-judgmental setting? Ready to study your sexuality from a new perspective? Are you ready to examine your life with the compassion you'd bestow on a friendly stranger from another land? If so, don't be a stranger...contact me now to set up a consultation!

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