“I’m afraid I’m too old and wrinkled; what if women don’t find me attractive anymore?” “I’m afraid I’m too young, and women won’t find me...

My consciousness is regularly drawn across the arc of this pendulous heart journey - feeling alone and together. Maybe it’s because I’m...

Yeah, I saw the Barbie movie. And, yeah, I cried. Why? No matter how feminist, conscious, body-positive or healthy I am, I still compare...

Sex-positive swag, like my “I make my sex therapist blush” t-shirt, is a friendly reminder that #sextherapy is available to help put...

The other day a man called in after reading a post in which I invited clients with kinks to the clinic. He was really nervous - it’s hard...

I really identify with this line from one of my favorite songs, "Someone New," by Hozier . I love talking to people I've just met. And I...

What do you call it? “Lady Parts” “The Bits?” “Chacha?” There’s a movement these days to teach children the proper names of body parts,...

BIG NEWS! I've been awarded the Kinsey Institute ’s Ogden Curatorial Scholarship for Integrative Approaches to Sex Research and Therapy!...

As a counselor, I meet people who have suffered, often alone, for years. However, one of the best parts of my work is observing how,...

Great intimacy is like driving a stick shift! REVERSE? You feel distance from partners…intimacy is triggering and painful, emotionally or...

This is the tendency to prioritize others at the EXPENSE of our desires, needs or feelings. Being polite, kind or generous isn't what...

"Mom, why isn’t polyamory represented in the pride flag? Why is the rainbow all about the gender of the person you love and not about the...

For twenty years or so, I was a professional nerd. An academic. Three degrees, research, elite universities...day and night I read (and...

What do you want to be when you grow up? I wanted to be a rock star, not a sex therapist. And yet...I was THAT kid - the one who taught...